Of realized wishes/wishful thoughts....

This little incident might sound silly as you read on ,but here goes . Last week we lost the back screw of my daughter's ear-ring. Not a very silly matter as that was probably the second loss of a 22 carat gold ear-ring by her in nearly 4 months. Quite an accomplishment by way of losses I should say, and so much disappointment and self-rebuke on my part as a result of this turn of events.

The self-rebuke on my part being, I hadn't paid enough attention, like checking on her ear-ring every once in a while as we knew she was in the habit of losing em.I discovered she was without one ear-ring just as she was hurrying to get ready for school.Not an ideal time I agree, but that particular point never stopped me from immediately rushing into the bath and checking the floor and the tub, in the high hopes of finding a part or both parts of the ear-ring.

To my delight I did find the anterior part , the posterior screw being no where in sight, to my dismay . Even though I was beggared for time right then, I couldn't stop myself from trying to poke around near the drain just in hopes of finding the little screw. No way was I ever gonna get that back I knew, it could have long drained off, I realized that to my disappointment.

My girl was so sad she'd lost another one of the gold rings again, and looked to me for some reassurance, which, I just was not in the mood to give her at all , but I managed to say that I would try to find it for her anyway . I had no idea what to do right then, I couldn't send her to school with one ear bare, that sure would look odd. So, I decided to remove mine and attach one of the screws to her ear-ring to save the situation, which did not help at all . It wouldn't fit, the screw. Gratefully, I found there was an extra pair I'd put away in the medicine cabinet for such occasions and immediately helped her into it, with the accompanying howls of pain of course, that which we always get during such exchanges.

The thought of the loss heavily weighed on me that morning, that I went on my hands and knees with a fine tooth comb, searching for the minute treasure, but again with no payoff . Another bout of self-rebuke helped me a bit , but then not really I guess. I went into one of those 'If only' modes again, daydreaming that possibly she lost it here, there or wherever, somewhere for goodness sakes! And it was in one of those moments of wishful thoughts, that I did think hopefully, that she could have maybe lost it in my neighbor's house, her friend Surya's house, where it was that she was a constant visitor. Maybe, I thought, it is somewhere on the carpet or sofa or anywhere there in the house and they might probably find it. Having had this little wishful thinking already (among many other probable scenarios btw), I related this loss to my neighbor, when I saw her later that day and in reply to her query, why I had changed my lil one's ear-rings. I also mentioned how she'd lost one too many of her gold ear-rings over the months and how it was just so small , that it could have drained away so easily, and maybe I should try getting one of those silver or 14 k gold ones from  J C Penney or Kohls or some such place for her .

The long and short of it being, early next morning, I get a call from my neighbor saying she had the little gold screw in her hand right then, that she'd found it among the cushions on her sofa and that she was immediately reminded of my very recent loss! Well imagine that ! We needn't after all wait until next year to get back home to get her ear-ring fixed or replaced, its been found....well that was a first I got to say.

So you see, wishes/ wishful thinking can really come true . Did I mention my son was in presence when the call came through that the ear-ring was found ? At that moment I told him I had actually wished it would be found in Surya's house.You wanna know what he said, right? "Now that's rich mom..really! Mom, can you do the same thing for me please?" He asks. "What?" I ask , and he goes, "Wish that I will get better grades in school please, will you mom?" I burst out laughing..he was very much like me after all, my dear son. Wasn't I the very same way, wanting some magic everyday in my life, especially while in school, wishing I would get better grades, but not willing to work harder for it ? The apple sometimes does not really fall very far from the tree after all..

But again, maybe I ought to apply my wishing skills to wish for something really substantial,  more worthwhile, for a better, valuable life with all of my heart that is, like I did with the little gold screw, and who knows my wishes might surprise me by getting themselves realized. So he does have a point there, my son..